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Will you be alone this christmas?
Hi to everyone,
Christmas is nearing and I wanted to share with you how I changed being alone at Christmas . About 5 years ago I remember clearly everyone at work talking about their preparations for christmas, I just sat and listened then they asked me what I was doing for Christmas, I told them I would be spending Christmas alone, know one knew what to say so I said "don't worry I'll be fine", inside I just wanted to run and cry but I just put up a brave front and smiled, I guess deep down everyone knew that I wasn't ok but again they just didn't know what to say. For many it is a fear that they would never want to be in the same situation at Christmas. My shift at work ended on Christmas Eve I had loads of hugs from my work colleagues and Christmas cards, then it was time to go home.
Christmas Eve I went to bed early and watched tv, Christmas morning I woke went to the kitchen made a cup of tea, it was so quiet that I thought the world had gone away, nothing was of interest to me, TV, cooking, Christmas Day seemed to go on forever, I felt numb. in the evening I recieved a couple of phonecalls again I said my day was quiet but I had a nice day. when I went to bed I didn't go to sleep until after midnight. Next morning I woke early to go to work, normality returned it was a relief I had got through Christmas Day. The one thing I realised the big build up to Christmas for my colleagues they had come back down to earth with a crash all they could think about was recieveing their bonuses in the new year to pay for Chrismas.
New year was no different, I went to bed early but was woken by the fireworks and people shouting happy new year. I went to sleep around 2am, when I woke the next morning I made a cup of tea and thought next year is going to be different.
Throughout that year I went through many ups and downs but it was always in the back of my mind how I was going to make my next Christmas a happier time if I was to be on my own. July of that year I picked up my first copy of Fate and Fortune, I realised then although I was living on my own that I was never alone, reading F&F I realised the spirit world was trying to communicate with me I just didn't realise it, all I needed to learn what the signs were.
December was aproaching and understanding that the spirit world was trying to communicate with me I became more sensitive to the promptings, for each and every person signs are personal to you, the one thing I learned was if nothing was comming through there was nothing useful to know and don't stress yourself out or try to force communication for it needs to be natural and if a sign comes through you will know what to do, did I make mistakes with these signs Yes at first I did because sometimes you know how to respond to situations promply and others you need meditate, sometimes you need to be patient.
Preparation started for my Christmas first week of December, a list of gifts for my family were written down, all gifts brought and wraped that week, the message for me that came through that week all gifts given should be wraped and sent with UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, I then put the gifts in the post as my family as they didn't live near to me. The next week I wrote my food shopping list brought what I needed then put the food in the cupboards for Christmas, Message sent say THANKYOU for the gift of nourishment. Then an unexpected message Bills, I couldn't understand why the word Bills wouldn't go away so I lit a CANDLE and meditated, the answer I recieved was about paying my bills before christmas, this wasn't easy as I didn't fully understand why but I felt strongly I needed to do this because somewhere along the line I would recieve the answer so the BILLS were paid.
The one thing I forgot to mention was when I did the Chritmas shopping I brought a little extra. I felt happier to talk about my plans for that Christmas with friends, I was spending Christmas on my own, I was going to enjoy my Christmas dinner and I was going to Chill for the rest of the day.
Christmas Eve I lit a candle and looked into the flame and said I send my thoughts and Love to all who are spending Christmas alone. Close your eyes and visualise that you are sending light and love to the world.
Christmas morning I got up had a shower made a cuppa lit a candle and looked into the flame, I felt an overwheming feeling of happiness, I said Thankyou. Then there was a knock at my door a friend had called by to wish me a Merry Christmas, they had a cuppa with me, I recieved more phone calls than usual, and offer of going to friends homes for Christmas, I thanked them for their offer but I was already cooking my Christmas dinner, I wished them the happiest Christmas ever with all my Love. A friend turned up that day and I asked would they like to stay for Christmas dinner with me I then recieved my answer to why I needed to buy more food, an extra seat would be needed at the table.
The new year came in and I was promted about my Bills then realised they had all been paid, so I recieved the answer to why I needed to pay my Bills before Christmas. I received 2 Christmas presents that year I spent time with friends and knowing I am never alone because the spirit world is aways with me and are helping me, but its important to remember others if they need help look for the signs in ways to help them also in anything you do always do it unconditionally without asking for anything in return and always do it with LOVE and LIGHT.
My thoughts are with everyone especially as we are all faced with very challenging times at the moment, we can all rise above these challenges its looking for the personal signs, for anyone alone this Christmas remember you are not alone you just need to look for the signs. To this day I still light a candle for in the light you find the answers.
Lots of Love and Blessings
Rose X
Hi Rose,
Thank you for sharing your thought-provoking experience. Times like Christmas mean so much about caring and sharing. I've been thinking a lot about homeless people who don't have the luxury of a bed to sleep in. I pass a homeless man everyday when going to work and I feel guilty like I should be doing something more than giving him the odd pound for a hot drink.
I write down on my Christmas cards those who are missing from my Christmas like my Nans & Grandads, Uncles, Aunties and those who have touched my life.
Hope you have a much more fulfilling Christmas.
With Love and Light to you Rose.
Love,
Demi xxx
Hi Demi,
Thankyou for your thourghts about those less fortunate than ourselves, I have done voluntry work over Chrismas with the homeless and I remember them saying thankyou for being here and listening and not judgeing us, many homeless people don't have the suport of their families when they most need it, they also don't want to be homeless.
I only spent one Christmas alone but with so much knowledge in F&F I learned that I only needed to ask and I would find answers, my experience happened 4 or 5 years ago I learned so much from it. For the last few weeks its as if I was being drawn to the F&F forum site to share this experience, although I typed the message the words just flowed, I felt that the spirit world was helping me to share the message.
We only need to look for the signs and we will find the answers.
Demi I'm sending Love and Light to you and I wish for many Blessings to avail you and your families life this festive season.
Rose
Thank you for sharing rose
I always struggle with christmas, and always have since a kid i was seven when my brother died aged six, i just remember how lonely it felt when he wasn't around, this has sailed on into adult hood along with the passing of my Nan mom when i was sixteen. No matter how many people are around it felt like someone was missing, about twenty years ago it was dinner time and both my dogs needed walking, i could never walk them both the same time, as they would tie me up in knots with the leads, so first i walked Bruce as i passed the Oddfellows pub the duke box was playing, all you have to do is dream by the Everly brothers i smiled at the memory of my bro and me singing it was our favourite song, i returned Bruce home and walked Fagon as we passed the pub seven tears was playing by the Goombay dance team, my Nans favourite song, i don't think it was coincidence, i think it was the two people i miss the most letting me know they were with me christmas day, a very speacial memory. xx
Hi Caccie,
I'm sorry to hear of the loss of your Brother, Nan and Mom, what happens when we are young can effect us into adulthood and it is so much more difficult to cope with or understand sometime if we don't have the suport of someone to listen and help us come to terms with how we are feeling.
I smiled when you wrote hearing the songs all you have to do is dream and seven tears as you were walking your dogs past the pub brought memories back of your brother and nan, this was a sign they were with you, the one thing I learned was we are never alone even when we are on our own.
Like you family and friends have passed away and it left a void in my life, its only in my adult years that I have learned how to come to terms with these losses, our loved ones are never far away from us we only need to realise the signs to keep their memories alive.
Thankyou Caccie for shareing your thoughts as Christmas is drawing ever nearer, I'm sure by what you have shared will be of great comfort to those who read what you have written.
I'm sending you Love and Light and many Blessings to avail you and your families lives this Christmas.
Rose X
Feel free to introduce me to your friends on here.
Reading the post where someone called you their Earth Angel resonated with me, a conversation we had some years ago.
It also reminded me that I painted a picture for you when I first went to the shared house - it was a thanks for all the help and support you gave me in moving.
For some reason it never made it's way to you, so I have scanned and uploaded it here, for you.
You are never too far away from my thoughts.
Hi Toph,
Thankyou for your kind words and the gift of the painting you have done for me, I feel deeply touched, because of the forum name you have put up and the words I know that I know you personaly.
I would just like you to know that you are a true friend for life not just for christmas, I am pleased you are still painting and maybe one day I will recieve the painting, never say never.
I will start a new thread to welcome you to the forum, we don't know each other personaly on the forum we just all have the same thing in common, we all have a great interest in all thing spiritual.
You moved away so where ever you are you are in my thoughts.
Love and Light Rose
